Life is busy. In the constant movement of everyday responsibilities, it’s easy to drift away from our source and forget that we are souls having a human experience—here to learn, grow, and fulfil a deeper purpose.
I often find myself wrapped up in identities: mother, partner, manager, doer, fitness enthusiast, dog mum, paramedic. The list is long, and at times, exhausting. As a woman in this incarnation, the weight of these roles can feel particularly heavy. Yet beneath all of those labels is something far more enduring—the soul.
One of the beliefs that resonates deeply with me is that relationships are rarely accidental. Lucas and I feel like soul mates; two souls who have travelled together before and who have reunited in this lifetime with lessons to teach and learn from one another. Our journey invites us to reflect on karma, on the patterns that repeat, and on the opportunities for growth that present themselves through challenge and connection.
What I have noticed is that this lifetime seems to be offering me an accelerated learning experience. Early on, I am learning move beyond the beliefs and expectations of my church congregation upbringing in order to start to trust my own intuition and follow my unique path. That process was not easy, but it was necessary.
My life has also been shaped by relationships. I have experienced two long-term partnerships, two marriages, two beautiful children, and nearly two divorces. Each relationship has been a teacher.
The first drew me to an outgoing, social personality. While there was attraction and excitement, we were not growing in the same direction. Communication became difficult, and eventually we could no longer truly meet one another where we were.
The second offered intellectual connection and stimulating discussion. Something was missing – warmth, intimacy, and spiritual connection.
Now, in this third chapter, I find myself experiencing something different. There is a profound spiritual recognition. Lucas and I have important soul work to do together. Our relationship is fiery, passionate, and at times challenging. It asks us both to confront old wounds, patterns, and fears. There is much for us to untangle, understand, and integrate.
Yet I am beginning to see that this is where the growth lies. The greatest relationships are not always the easiest; sometimes they are the ones that call us most strongly into our evolution. They invite us to become more authentic, more conscious, and more aligned with our purpose.
Perhaps that is what this incarnation is about—not finding perfection, but embracing the lessons that help us remember who we truly are. Beneath every role, every challenge, and every relationship, we are souls learning, teaching, and slowly finding our way home to ourselves.
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